Today I want to highlight a common practice at solid rock, called “scapegoating”:
From the article:“Scapegoating is the practice of singling out any party for unmerited negative treatment or blame.”Nearly every person in the group is scapegoated at one time or another, all except James of course. However there is one person who merits special attention, in my opinion, and that person is Judy, Jennifer’s mother.Judy is an interesting person, because she is the only woman in the group’s history who never succumbed to James’ flattery and sexual innuendo.
By resisting James, he never came between her and her husband Larry. She, her husband, and her other daughter left in 1988 but James’ vitriol for her has continued unabated into the present time, with her name and her husband’s name (Larry) coming up in conversation on a regular, if infrequent, basis.
James referred to her as a spider. He never referred to her in positive terms, and his influence lead to Jennifer’s estrangement from her for over 20 years. This impacted not only Judy’s relationship with Jennifer, but with her son-in-law Jess and their children.
Questions:
Why did James villainize Judy for over two decades after her departure?
Do you think there is a relationship between James villainizing Judy, Jennifer’s estrangement from Judy, and James affair with Jennifer?
Does Jess have a role here? If so, what?
All of the current members are aware of these events. What do you think they think about them? Current members include Connie Parkinson, Steve Filippo, Tammie Filippo, Jess Thieme, Diana Blanc, Lorrie York, Curtis Taylor, Rex Christensen, and Pat Christensen.
yea the little sexual titillations and inuendos that turn you on, then he cuts you down with some completey random yet subtle slam (or not suble, depending on other factors), then the sexual titillations then the put down, over and over and over. Always accompanied by the coy smile.
ReplyDeleteLadies - walk away from the titillation. Just walk away and do not look back.