The people of the group believe that nobody is ever harmed, and I mean this in an objective sense. There is no actual harm done to people from outside of themselves, because they choose to be harmed.
A common phrase one hears as a member of the group is “You just want to be a victim.”
One phrase that is not discussed is “You just want to be a perpetrator.” Seems logical, doesn’t it? If it’s true that some want to be victims, then it must also be true that others want to be perpetrators. Let’s take, for example, a leader who has repeated sexual affairs with married women, and he himself is married. If the women just want to be victims, then it stands to reason that the married man having these multiple affairs wants to be the perpetrator. But this side of the coin is never discussed. The truly brilliant result is that it immediately raises their pride: “You just want to be a victim.” “No I don’t!”
This person is now set on a trajectory to constantly prove how much they don’t want to be a victim. This includes tolerating massive amounts of verbal and emotional abuse in order to prove that one doesn’t want to be a victim. One is is constantly “working” to prove they’re not a victim, and all of that “work” is founded in pride, in a desire to prove otherwise.There is no correct answer to the statement, “You just want to be a victim.” If you answer, “No I don’t,” or “Yes I do,” you’ve fallen into the trap. If you answer, “You just want to be a perpatrator,” you’ve fallen into the trap.
Think about the world view of the person who says, “You just want to be a victim.” Such a person is saying three things:
1. You are God. You completely control what happens to you and others. You are in complete control of this situation, even as we speak.
2. You are using your God powers to hurt yourself.
3. You can learn to use your God powers better.“You just want to be a victim.”
Can you feel the lure? You just received a challenge. The challenge goes even further than this, because if you walk away from the challenge by not answering, the rebuttal is that you must REALLY LOVE to be a victim, and, you aren’t serious about your spiritual development or “the work.”Imagine yourself as a person interested in spiritual things, seeking “something more,” yet walking away from this engagement without answering or even looking back.
Could you?
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